Perspective Stories

"It's not that big a deal!" The Backstory I had an Equity Perspective moment recently, when I was feeling sorry for myself after having a (successful) procedure in our local hospital. I’ve been very fortunate during my life not to have had to be in hospital often. I went in to have both my children in my 30's, and both were born by caesarean. The first was an emergency section, which I still have very traumatic memories of, so when I’m in a hospital, my HSP and neurodiverse brain gets overwhelmed and takes me straight back to that day and those feelings. It can almost physically cause pain, as well as mental distress. The second caesarean was planned, so that I'd know what to expect, having had so much trauma the first time. I get quite upset and feel judged when I hear people suggest that choosing to have a c-section is the lazy option, the too posh to push way to have a baby, or that it’s a quicker recovery. Part of my scar opened up 14 years after I’d had my se...

"Once you know better, do better"    The Backstory Equity has been a foundational part of my life for as long as I can remember. I just wasn’t aware it was there. For years, it quietly shaped how I built relationships, how I showed up for the people around me, and how I tried to create spaces where people felt able to be themselves. It guided me before I even had a word for it. It’s only in the last few years that I’ve started to really see how deeply it runs through my life, and how much it connects almost everything I care about. I’d been having quite a lot of health issues, and had really lost my creative spark. I took some time to try to re-evaluate what I was spending my time on, and whether it was bringing me joy or bringing me down. I realised I’d completely burnt myself out trying to be everything to everyone, and I was honestly worried I’d done some permanent damage to myself in the process. As I began paying closer attention to moments where things just ...

A closer look often reveals the bridges we already share   Perspective Stories is a space for thoughtful reflection on the many things that shape how we all co-exist and live together. It is written from the belief that many of the hardest conversations we are having right now feel less about being right or wrong, and more about feeling unheard, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the world around us. I created this site to share my own personal perspectives on human compassion, environmental responsibility, fairness, dignity and connection, with the intention of softening the space between differing opinions rather than widening it. It is absolutely not about winning arguments or simplifying complex issues. It is about slowing things down enough for us all to notice the impact our choices can have on each other and on the world that sustains us. Because in the busy of all of our lives, we can sometimes forget that our choices affect others – whose lives and struggles we may k...